Monday, June 1, 2015


Stop Dieting

Start Thinking "Weight Control"

You may not be aware of it, but ‘Weight Loss’ is a fad… a fashion… a sales gimmick that cons hundreds of thousands of people into parting with hard money weekly, monthly, and yearly. ‘Weight Loss’ is seldom permanent or healthy, physically or mentally.

I’m not going to tell you that ‘Weight Loss’ is a multi-billion dollar industry that seems like an evil corporate scam, because you may have already formed that opinion. You have seen it on TV, in magazines, and radio. I mean, honestly, there are new supplements, products, body wraps, exercise machines, and so much more that appears almost daily, each promising to help you achieve this elusive illusion of what you think you’re supposed to look like. And you just keep forking over the money and you’re never really satisfied… Why?  

Is it the promise of a result? Is it the ‘before and after’ pictures? Is it because someone lost 100 lbs eating sub sandwiches? Or is it because you want to take the easy way?

Believe it or not, before you get to enjoy the physical changes that come with a healthy decrease in weight, you first must undergo a mental shift that helps you break your old bad habits. But you already know that… don’t you?

What you may not know is that the key to beginning your transformation is thinking of it in proper terms. What you want – indeed, what you need – is a true lifestyle change instead of a lose-weight-quick crash diet, a new exercise machine, or another broken promise. 

If you give up the idea of weight loss and take on the idea of weight control, you will have a better chance for success. In fact, “control” is what you’re really after. Control is what your body – indeed, your subconscious mind – is really craving.

Is there a difference?

There is a difference and a huge one at that. I hate the term "weight loss" because most people, especially people who are not physically fit do not have a clue what they really want. People watch the scale and count pounds thinking that if they just lose 10 or 15 pounds that life will be great. They begin diet plans that are destined to fail; they begin exercise routines that are not suited for them, and they give up in frustration. 

When that happens, it opens the flood gate for all of the negative emotions. A failed diet or exercise program often reinforces feelings of worthlessness, powerlessness, helplessness and guilt. A person then feels empty inside. 

You see, there is an inseparable link between our psychology and our physiology. They are in a symbiotic relationship with each other. What affects one almost certainly affects the other. 

Eating is necessary for survival. And when we feel hungry, the survival instinct kicks in and we enter our “fight or flight” mode… this happens because when we are hungry, we are not safe.

Our genetics are hardwired to fill ourselves up to fuel our bodies in preparation for (or recovery from) fight or flight… it is this preparation which makes us feel safer and more secure. When there’s a feeling of worthlessness, powerless, or hopeless, there’s no longer the feeling of safety. 

Then our fight/flight response kicks in and we turn to food. Though there is no real physical danger from those empty feelings, the psychological/physiological link kicks in those instincts, and we want to fill our bellies.

When you combine the fight/flight response that wants us to consume fuel for our bodies, with the emotional hole that needs filling from the worthlessness, powerlessness, or hopelessness, it forms the basis for an eating disorder.

People with eating disorders - those who over-eat and those with anorexia or bulimia, disregard their own values and personal goals in relation to their health, looks, and lifestyle. They use food to comfort themselves - and when they realize what is happening - they use food to punish themselves. Instead of using it to fuel their bodies, they use food to fuel a cycle of self-destruction in the name of self-protection.

There is a way out…

The way out begins with mindset… and tackling the internal issues. Performance is a mindset. Success is a mindset. Before one can have lasting success with diets and exercise the mind must be reset.

First realize that it’s not “weight loss” that you are after. As I mentioned above, “weight control” is what you seek. If we take that even deeper, it is really self-control that you seek. Somewhere deep inside your subconscious mind, you want to control the feelings of worthlessness, powerlessness, or hopelessness. You want to control the circumstances that surround those feelings. You want to control the things that spur those feelings.

You likely already realize that the only way to control outside circumstances is to control yourself. So you try with diet and exercise. When this fails, the spiral starts over again.

You might not believe it, but the way to control outer circumstances is by learning to control our responses to them. 
To have a healthy body, it is necessary for us to take action of a physical level with diet and exercise, but to have a healthy relationship with food, it is necessary for us to understand ourselves on a deeper emotional level or to uncover why we eat the way we eat. If we challenge the behaviors alone through diet and exercise, the emotions we were eating to cover up won’t just go away. 

Once we identify the feelings and inner voices that perpetuate the cycle of self-sabotage and the insensitivity to our body, we can gain control of self-destructive eating habits without reacting negatively to pressure and triggers that lead us to spiral out of control.

By taking action on a physical level while taking action on an emotional level, we can re-establish our relationship with food, with our bodies, with our past, and with ourselves as a whole. We can uncover who we really are, our real wants, desires, and goals, and we can stop engaging in the patterns that get in our way.

I hope this has helped you!

Stay Zen!

Joe Vulgamore CHT is author of the Best-selling book "Alignment- Law of Attraction and the Seven Universal Laws" and "Powerful Powerful You - Understanding Your Power". He is a Life Coach, Hypnotherapist, and Holistic Healer. For almost 30 years, Joe has helped thousands of people from over 14 countries, across 5 continents, to make life-transformations through one-to-one coaching, books, and workshops.

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