Thursday, June 25, 2015



3 Absolute 'Must-Have's' to Succeed

Success is all perceptual really. Everyone has a different definition of success. For some it is the acquisition of wealth, for others, it may be finding love. Some think of 'success' and have no clear idea at all of how to define it. But one common thread that seems to tie all definitions together is the feeling of accomplishment.

When I was a teenager, my idea of 'success' was to join the Army and become a paratrooper. I would lay awake at night and visualize the feeling of jumping out of an airplane, swathing a path through the jungle, fighting off enemy ambushes, and securing perimeters. My visualizations ran so deep sometimes that I could hear the birds that filled the jungle trees. These visualizations excited me, motivated me, and brought me joy. Soon, I began to receive inspiration to act.

I was about fifteen or sixteen years old, too young to join the army, so I did everything I could to put myself closer to the dream. I would watch war movies on TV, read about famous battles, and study strategy and tactics. I began to read war novels to help put me in the place of ‘being there’. And the more I put myself in the ‘imagined’ reality, the more it began to take place. I began to attract like-minded people.

One day as I was walking down the hall between classes at school, I happened to overhear a conversation between two other boys. They were discussing different firearms that are used by the military. I listened for a moment and offered my opinion on the topic. That opinion was accepted and a new bond began to form. As I discovered that they were just as fascinated with the military as I was, the two boys and I began to hang out together on a regular basis. I was thrilled because I had attracted more that would help me feel closer to the realization of my dream.

The three of us began to move even closer to the ‘imagined’ reality over the next several months. On weekends, we would take our BB guns out into the desert and take target practice all day. Soon that would take on new characteristics as we began to wear camouflage clothing on the excursions and carry big hunting knives. We began to practice survival tactics and even played ‘escape and evasion’ games… hunting each other down in a Para-militaristic game of hide-and-seek. We were having fun… and our mothers were happy to have us away from the house.

Eventually, I was old enough to join the military, and I did. I jumped out of airplanes, endured brick-oven deserts and steamy-hot jungles, and all of the other things I had imagined. I had achieved my definition of 'success'.

Later in life, I achieved a great many other things as well. Family, businesses, houses, money, careers were all achievements that fit my personal definitions of success at those various points of my life.

3 Keystones

Through everything I ever achieved, and even today with my books and a successful coaching practice that has proven results, I know and understand there are 3 'keystones' needed to achieve any definition of success. They are as follows:

  1. Desire - If you want to succeed at anything, you must first develop an intense, white-hot, burning desire for your goal or dream. You must allow it to consume you (in a healthy way). You must allow that desire to burn so deep that you can see it, hear it, and feel it. That desire must become the dominating factor in your life (again, in a healthy way). It must be at the forefront of everything you do. That desire must be the first thought in your head when you wake, and the last thought when you fall asleep. That desire must become your driving force if you truly want to attain it.
  2. Belief - You must have unwavering belief that you will attain that desire. You must have unwavering belief that you will do whatever it takes to have it. You must believe in yourself and your ability to create it. You must believe that, no matter what else happens, you will accomplish your goal or dream. This means that you are undeterred mentally, physically, and emotionally from getting what you want to have. This means that you ignore all outside circumstances, all outside influences that would try to shake your belief, and you press forward anyway, and you absolutely do not stop until you achieve it.
  3. Action - Having a burning desire and unshakable belief is nothing if you do not take steps to bring your desire into your reality. You must translate the momentum you build with your desire from a mental state, to a physical state, and that can only be done through action. Sometimes that action might be as simple as making a choice... sometimes it might mean rolling up your sleeves and getting dirty... but there MUST be action. Desire defines what you want, belief gives you permission, but it is action that brings it to you. 

So when you are considering your own success, define your desire and let it burn like a forest fire, believe in yourself and know that everything is possible, and as my mentor Tony Robbins says, "Take massive action".

If you are having trouble with finding success, perhaps either my Personal Coaching or Executive Coaching program may be of help to you. (Shameless plug)

Believe to Achieve!

Joe Vulgamore is a Life Coach and Leadership Development Specialist - as well as a Personal Development Author and Speaker. He works with people to develop life and leadership skills to sharpen their edge, perform at optimum levels, and achieve excellence. He has 30 years of leadership experience and a proven track record of helping thousands of people from over 14 countries, across 5 continents, to make life-transformations through one-to-one coaching and workshops.

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