Tuesday, December 9, 2014


Life Coach Joe Vulgamore Speaks on Holding yourself Back
Life Coach Joe Vulgamore PCP, CBI Discusses Holding Yourself Back

Are you allowing your fears and doubts hold you back from achieving the things in life that you truly want? If you do not have them, the chances are pretty good that you are. Change is a very hard thing for people to deal with. In fact it is so hard that some people would rather deal with their day-to-day misery than just take that forward step.

So many people in this world feel powerless to change their lives. So many people are stuck because of their doubts and fears, that even when they know what they need to do, they still refuse to get out of it. So what do they do? Many people turn to watching self-help videos on YouTube, or they spend money hand-over-fist buying self-help books that tell them what to do to get out of the rut, but unfortunately, so many never do. Why? Because they make excuses... They make excuses like "I'm waiting till I have more money..." or "I'm waiting for the right time..." or "I'm waiting till I have the courage." Still others have the mindset of "I will be happy once I have the money." or "I will be happy once this situation has passed." Let me tell you, if your life is at a point where it is spinning out of control, waiting is not going to help you. If you wait on happiness, it will never come.

In order to have the things you want in your life; in order for things to fall into place, you must be happy first. Until you find your happiness, you are going to keep encountering the things that are "making you wait". If you are waiting on money to make you happy or if you are waiting on a situation to change before you can be happy, the cold, hard fact is this... you will wait on happiness forever. Once you find happiness, your situation will change. Once you find happiness, the money will begin to flow. Once you find happiness, all of your dreams will begin to manifest.

The key to unbuckling the ball-and-chain that is dragging behind you is through action. You must take the steps necessary to get what you want. Sitting around waiting, or giving in to your fears and doubts is a waste of time and energy. That energy is much better spent on striving for your goals, striving for your dreams. If you are going to expend energy, why not make it fruitful? Anything other than taking the action is just an excuse... it is avoidance. Are you really going to prevent yourself from enjoying the wondrous fruits of life because you are afraid of the unknown? Do you really think that the unknown is going to be worse than being stuck in a situation that you know sucks? 

If you aren't willing to take action... if you aren't willing to step outside the comfort zone... if you aren't willing to believe in yourself... then I guess you will never know, will you? So how do we step outside of the comfort zone? How do we get rid of the fear and doubt and begin to take action?

One word... "Commitment".

Do you know what commitment actually means? The dictionary version of commitment says "An agreement or pledge to do something in the future; the state or an instance of being obligated or emotionally impelled.", but does that really get to the heart of what a commitment means? No.

To some, a commitment might mean a "promise". Those two words are often used interchangeably in today's modern society. But promises can, and often are, broken. A promise gives a person a way out of an agreement. A promise is an excuse for potential failure. In terms of the Universe, a commitment means to fulfill. To the Universe, making a commitment and fulfilling it are the exact same thing. And since you are the Universe, a part of it, and it a part of you, the word 'commitment' and its meaning should be the exact same thing to you too.

When you make a true commitment, in that same moment, the Universe gives you the ability to fulfill it. Again, I am not talking about a promise. I am talking about commitment. That is a very powerful realization and a very generous gift from the Universe. The Universe is giving you power! How wonderful is that? How much power does the Universe give you? Exactly the right amount needed to fulfill your commitment... because in the eyes of the Universe, it is already done.

In this journey of life, there is only one true constant... You! Friends come and go, family members eventually pass away, material possessions come and go, significant others come and go. You can replace your home, your car, your clothes, your pets, and everything else you find along your journey but you are always there. You are the one and only thing that you can rely on to be there when life gets hard.  If you cannot rely on yourself completely and totally, then what are you to do? Your only option... let me repeat that... your only option is to make sure that you can rely on you. 

When you come to understand the word commitment in the way I am using it here, you guarantee that every goal, every dream, and every desire will be met with success. It means that you will no longer be at the mercy of others. It means that you will no longer be a victim. And why should you be a victim or at the mercy of others? You are the most powerful being in your personal universe, so why not commit to yourself?

Can you think of one good reason why you shouldn't have everything that you want out of life? If you can, then it is just an excuse that you have crafted. It is just another Limiting Belief standing in your way of achieving your ultimate goal. 

You can use "Commitment" to overcome Limiting Beliefs... and I'm about to tell you how.

There is only one way to make a true commitment. Choose what you want to commit to and act. Once you understand that making a commitment also means fulfilling it, you will feel amazing. You will know that you are the powerful being that you really are and you will reflect it. You will be "Who you want to be" and everyone around you will see it, feel it, and know it, because you will be mirroring your inner-self. You can do this with confidence because you will know that in the moment of making the true commitment, you already have succeeded in that same moment. Is that not powerful?

Imagine aiming a gun at a target. When you pull the trigger, the bullet is absolutely committed to hitting the target... and marksmanship not withstanding, that bullet will succeed in hitting that target. When you make a commitment, you must be the bullet. You must know that you will succeed in hitting your target.

What that means is, when you make a true commitment, you will call upon every ounce of strength, determination, and power that was given to you in that moment from the Universe, to achieve that to which you have irrevocably committed. When you take on that attitude, you will succeed every time. Obstacles, doubts, and limiting beliefs will dissolve in that face of your determination. The rewards you will reap will be beyond your wildest dreams.

We all have choices to make. Commit to choosing happiness over fear, choosing happiness over doubt, choosing happiness over waiting. Make a commitment and go get what you want. The power is inside you... Powerful, Powerful YOU!

If you are looking for a boost in motivation or help getting started fulfilling your dreams, check out my Alignment Boot Camp Online Workshops.

Happy Aligning!

Joe Vulgamore PCP, CBI is a Life Coach and Self-Help AuthorHe has a proven track record of motivating thousands of people from over 14 countries, across 5 continents, to make life-transformations through one-to-one coaching and workshopsJoe is also a Gold Member of the International Association of Professional Life Coaches (IAPLC).

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